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Your Non-Negotiables in the New Year: A Message From Down With Spit Up

12/21/2016

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Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. Physiological, safety, love/belonging, esteem, self-actualization.

Moms and Dads of High-Needs' Babies: A shower every once in a while.

Whether you're tackling common newborn and infant issues such as reflux, colic and sleep issues, or more complicated and chronic challenges in your life, for every child there is a cause to care (and an incredibly important reason to take care of yourself).

My message to you - as always - is to hang in there and find a way to make yourself smile amidst the chaos. 

Perhaps it's volunteering to help other families in need, or as simple as demanding to drink your coffee hot.

I encourage you to not only find your favorite activities, but also your "non-negotiables," and call on them regularly to build strength, renewal and energy to take on whatever challenge is ahead.

Best wishes to you this season and for many smiles in 2017.

Sincerely,

Christina 
(@DownWithSpitUp)
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Holding On: The Best Ways to Carry Babies With Reflux

10/16/2016

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This post title could've been "holding on by a thread." That's how many parents and caregivers feel when it comes to making their newborn or infant comfortable amidst reflux and related issues. 

While the primary advice is to try and keep your baby upright, the actions are easier said than done, when the discomfort reigns and sometimes around the clock.

Below are few tips I found in my own experience and sources around the web:

Straight up holding
For the first six weeks I gave new meaning to baby wearing, as in holding upright and on my chest (and others). It was why I wore a white sweatshirt for that same time too as you couldn't see all the spit up daily. Tough on the inconvenience meter, and my back eventually, but also necessary in my case.

This "Reflux Relief" list on Breastfeeding Quest gives a variety of options for holding and positioning. Parents.com has bottle feeding best positions post as well. 

Spoiler alert: the constant companionship didn't spoil the child. He just told me the other day that he needed his space while he played his legos. 

Baby wearing
I tried with both of my sons the wraps and slings for actual baby wearing but failed both times. Both kids screamed until they were out Tara Greaves, author and former reflux parent blogger at https://aftertheraincomessunshine.com, shared earlier on this site that she "went through three different ones before going back to the first...it was the only way I got anything done in those early months when she needed to be held upright all the time."

See more on InfantReflux.org's Infant Reflux and Babywearing: A Happy Coexistence 

Swaddling?
Pure physics and logic would say that nothing tight (clothing, diapers, etc.) around the baby and its core would be smart in these cases. However, swaddling, aka "the fourth trimester," is typically recommend to try with reflux babies because it creates a soothing effect against the agitation that can make reflux worse. In my case, finding swaddle swagger was about all I could do to catch a break.

Check out this post on Ergo baby from sleep consultant Rebecca Michi "Swaddling our Newborns," and specifically the part on reflux help.



What did you do to keep holding on, and more importantly, would you have done anything differently?


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One Chair at a Time: Advice for New and Returning Moms

7/4/2016

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Becoming a mom came as quite a shock to me.

Yes I understood the science behind it, and was fully present for the joys and woes that are pregnancy and childbirth, but as a general schema the impact of parenthood was both abrupt and lasting.


Opting to return to work less than six weeks after giving birth…well that was near traumatic. The wounds were barely healed, and there I was, buckling my seatbelt, chugging my tear-filled coffee.

It was about this time when I discovered blogging as therapy: both in reading others and composing some of my own; a living journal of sorts.

Early on I knew I would need something to make sense of what I was going through.

Away from my newborn more than 10 hours/day while at work; up most of the night while he learned how to sleep; lacking exercise and general health because of these factors; and feeling hopelessly inadequate in all areas of life (and having these feelings validated at the worst times). 


I wish I could remember or find the original source to share, but in my web-browsing I found an article with a theme that stuck with me: one chair at a time.

You’re either at your desk (or whatever work you do), at home with your kids, or fulfilling another obligation.

You can’t do anything all that well if your mind is still stuck in a different chair than the one with the tasks at need right in front of you. It’s a literal detachment from everything else so you can focus. Maybe it sounds harsh but it’s reality. 


It reached me at exactly the right time, because my next chair was going to be have to be a therapist’s couch.

It was liberating in a way. I was hyper productive during my work hours, feeling like I did the work of two people but that’s another story, and felt no guilt unplugging at 5 p.m. for family focus time during off hours and weekends.

What I've learned 

Fast-forward five years, so what have I learned?

1. Maternal Instincts: If you’re like me, parenthood can take you by surprise. If you will continue to work after having children, by choice or circumstance, be diligent in finding an employer that offers the right maternity leave plan for your life (paid or non-paid). Trust your gut with major decisions like this because it's the only thing without its own agenda!

2. Multipliers: I also learned an obvious yet genius technique when purposeful thought is put in – multipliers. I write this as my kids play outside, so I can supervise but they don’t really want or need me bugging them. I do the same with exercise, cooking, shopping, meal making etc. I say often, 'this is family time,' whether we are working together, cleaning the house or watching a movie. Chores aren’t as horrible when you feel like you’re spending time together (good for marriages too..yet another post).

3. Move: Don’t sit too long in one place: make exercise a priority. No, not so you can land a spot on the hot mom bod calendar. Your brain needs exercise as much as the rest of your body. 

Leaning...back?

I’ve broken the chair rules a bit, and with good reason. If something distracts me from work (two kids and a life will do that; it’s ok to do work at home and on weekends), I've realized that it doesn't have to take you down with it.

What might, is feeling such resentment either way because there is no blend. I can feel this when I’m leaning too in, versus paying too less attention to my career development. Don't think in and out, think back and forth!

When in doubt, find an easy chair or outdoor recliner, and take 20 minutes to lean back, breathe deep, and appreciate all that you're working for and accomplish each day. 


Bonus Material: 

    •    Work as if your paycheck depends on it. (yes, that it does, don’t forget it)
    •    Blog like no one is reading. (After looking at old posts I’ve written, I’m thinking this is a good thing) 
    •    Sneak away for a nap when no one is looking (okay, maybe you should tell someone so they don’t report you missing)
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The Power of Story: Personal Accounts From Reflux Parents

5/14/2016

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Pain into purpose. There is power and healing in sharing one's struggles, and no better channel for us than through parenting blogs.

While I'm never surprised when a mom or dad pours their heart out online about life with a reflux baby or child, I am always inspired by their courage. Why? Because the ugliness of the situation comes with strong doses of guilt and reality. 

We are all too conscious of the fact that we must be grateful to have a baby in our arms, when so many do not. We can't complain about sleeplessness or laundry, when there are far too many families dealing with serious issues, including the most severe cases of infant reflux. 

Then there's the feeling of helplessness and being out of control. We can't find the relief or remedy to help our child who is helpless themselves, and literally sit and suffer in our own way while time passes.

If you've landed here at a point of desperation, please check out the accounts below, for even a bit of a break from the anguish. Save the guilt for another day and realize you aren't alone. 

Tears, Pain and Suffering - A Newborn with Reflux
http://www.adventureswithj.co.uk/adventures-of-parenting/reflux-newborn/
(@100awj)

How my baby's reflux affected my whole family
https://reflux.support/how-my-babys-reflux-affected-my-whole-family/
(@babyreflux)

Dealing with Colic and Reflux in babies
http://www.arthurwears.com/2015/09/dealing-with-colic-and-reflux-in-babies.html
(@arthurwears)

When your baby has reflux
http://unfilteredmami.com/2016/02/when-your-baby-has-acid-reflux/
(@unfilteredmami)

Reflux mums will know

http://ghostwritermummy.co.uk/2015/07/15/reflux-mums-will-know/
(@ghostwritermumm)

DownWithSpitUp on Fox8News, Cleveland Ohio
http://www.downwithspitup.com/spit-up-blog/christina-schmitz-talks-car-seat-dangers-and-the-reflux-connection-with-fox-8-cleveland
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My journey may have ended, but at any given moment, the story is just starting for a new family. Learn more about DownWithSpitUp.com.

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Reflux is the new colic, and other phrases that make your stomach churn

3/30/2016

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Source: By Daisuke Tashiro (Flickr) [CC BY-SA 2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons

​I often wonder what parenting was like in the olden days. Such as anytime in history, say, before 60-75 years ago or so.

Moms had to rely on their actual village for learning and advice; not the ones they could find online.

They may or may not have had access to a doctor-like figure, making first opinions the norm (whether from their own mother, relatives and the like). Frankly, it's hard to imagine.

That's why being overly informed today, can be overly annoying and overwhelming. We challenge everything: from the advice of actual medical professionals who've put the time, student loans, and actual practice behind their suggestions and prescriptions, to our gut feelings, and observations and recommendations from those we trust most.

That said, when it comes to matters of reflux, colic, sleep issues and general fussiness, there is a breaking point where statements meant to be helpful or mood-lightening are simply gag-worthy.

My favorites are below, and while I'm sure there's more, I couldn't find the energy to regurgitate them all in one post.

"Reflux is the new colic."

Babies spit up. Babies cry. Babies don't sleep. It's just an excuse for parents to find an easy fix to deal with a naturally fussy baby. We're so used to quick solutions for our problems that we demand a diagnosis, even when one is unclear. 

While I won't go down this rocky road on this site (18 months of spit up on every surface of the house put me on the other side of this line of thinking), I can see the rationale behind those with this argument. Simple Twitter hashtag searches for things like #infantreflux, #reflux, #babyreflux, and you'll see the volume of angst out there.

The spit up is real for many families, and since many experts debate the existence of colic anyway, let's just put this one to rest.

"Reflux is your laundry problem."

Ok, so maybe we are all caught in the uproar that reflux is over-diagnosed, over-medicated and over-reacted to by caregivers. But this phrase is just a slap in the face and does nothing to help us when we're hanging on the brink of sanity (and extended periods of no sleep). We already have mounds of mounds of regular laundry, so let's try to make jest of the situation with a witty comment? But oh yes, "the dishes can wait" while we must savor each moment of parenthood, so as long as the health department doesn't pay a visit. 

"Get a second opinion."

This goes without saying that you shouldn't rely on the advice or opinion of just one resource (especially a website you find in the middle of night like DownWithSpitup.com wink wink).

You can do your own research to build your knowledge base, as long as you are relying on the advising of a medical professional, who has spent years-upon-years studying and practicing the subject matter at hand. 

However, not all second opinions help to calm the situation. In her recent post, Tongue Tie, Reflux or just Fussy? Suzanne "MummytoTwins" highlights the confusion and bitterness that comes with conflicting opinions, even professional ones. 

It states:
"As a mother it is very confusing and annoying to have such conflicting views. What do you do? Do you continue to see someone for a tongue tie that a surgeon says is not there? Or do you just let it be."

With a Grain of Salt

I admit this post wasn't one of my most rewarding to write, but cathartic nonetheless. If you've ever encountered with these and other cringe-worthy blanket statements, just remember: parenting comes with a side of snarkiness, and without a doubt, "this too shall pass" (couldn't resist). 


What parenting quips turn your stomach? No better time than the present to get them all out!
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An open letter to anyone who invites me to their fitness fixes in the new year

12/28/2015

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Dear, friend, colleague, distant family member, or stranger from the Internet,

​Please don't. Thank you.

Sincerely,

Anyone, anywhere

Ok so if that's not good enough, I will offer my extended response below. You've been warned:

​First of all, wow, I am flattered that of all of your contacts you've selected ME to your exclusive group, be it a new fitness challenge, your fat-busting miracle wraps, or life-changing line of beauty products, etc.

Maybe it was that recent family photo where I was looking a little softer in the middle and tired around the eyes, or the snap of me and my kid baking those cookies together with the big globs of frosting. Or possibly it was from that 5K group photo...I mean I did look a bit sweaty at the end...

Maybe I simply appear to be a driven person, and I'd just be a great addition to your team and achieving the important goals you're setting. #NewYearsResolutions and #FitnessGoals anyone!? 

And pyramids are definitely my favorite of the schemes out there, because the success just keeps growing, and it's like started by the Egyptians right? So yea, definitely on your wavelength, but I digest.

With all of this, I will have to respectfully decline this offer. Sorry, but this year, of all the years, I'm just feeling pretty damn good. Yea, I still have some baby weight (definitely won't be showing off any-pack of abs at the community pool this summer) but I've had some really good times:
  • Helped my older son complete his first year of full-time preschool and reach important milestones
  • Watched my younger son grow out of his reflux and become a funny little man 
  • Made it through a full year of crazy work schedules between me and my husband
  • Fulfilled a goal of joining a local non-profit as a volunteer, truly eye- and heart-opening
  • Put time into my blog and parenting community, making some awesome connections of people doing amazing things for parents in need and even did my first live TV interview
  • Opened up at work to experience and connect on a more personal level with my team, our leaders, and employees in all corners of the organization. I even played for our championship softball team.
  • Spoke to a group as a panelist at a women's professional empowerment event
  • Watched people really close to me keep the faith when the chips were quite down
  • Saw Luke Bryan and Garth Brooks in concert in the same year!
  • Threw some Pinterest-worthy parties
  • Got out of town a bit
  • Took many naps 
  • Baked stuff
  • etc.
OK so I might not eat "clean." But I'll have you know I do care about my health, work out at least a few times each week, I do generally wash off my food before I eat it, and certainly before I cook it or serve it to others.

I do finally prefer my lap to be a comfy place to land for anyone who needs it (especially my lap dogs). I like to run and do cardio because it relieves stress, and lifting weights make it easier to tackle just about anything (or anyone if need be). I also want my sons to grow up knowing that women can be strong, and soft, and come in all shapes and forms of beauty. 

I know we're at that wonderful time of year where women reflect on the trials and tribulations of the past 12 months, and flog themselves after every bite of indulgent treat or swig of holiday spirits. Been there and done that since I hit puberty and wanted boys to like me, and I've wasted a hell of a lot of time.

Today, I'm still me, and still have bouts of self-doubt and loathing, but more grateful for ever what I have. I know have infinite room to improve, but please, just let me have this time to just be. 

I applaud your efforts to use the power of social media to spread the word. I mean people need to be reminded that health is their true 
wealth. And beauty is their true currency. And fear is the root of all evil. And life is a box of chocolates. I know it, I feel ya, and I'm with ya, if only in spirit here. 

Again, thanks so much for thinking of me, but I really do need to focus on MY new program I'm really jazzed about. In fact, I will be shortly sending you an invite to join my new page called "Train Your Best. Tuck the Rest."

It's all about living your life on your terms, taking your mind off being perfect, and investing in some nice shapewear garments for the times when you don't want it to all hang out. It's catching on and I can't wait to show you the before and afters. I'm looking for 12 motivated individuals ready to not change their life all that much, let me know if you're in.

Until then, best of luck with your programs, and try to catch me on the next one!

Sincerely,

Comfortably Content in Cleveland (for now)
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*Disclaimer - if not evident - this is sarcasm, trying to shed humor on a serious subject.

​ I really do wish goodwill for those trying new things in the new year to change their lives. Behavior change is virtually impossible without extreme focus and energy, and frankly I'm just distracted and likely sleep-deprived as I write this. Get at it!
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Please stand by...

12/26/2015

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Round 2 of winter bugs just can't seem to leave us alone. Be back soon to talking my regular spit!

This post was originally up in Feb of 2014, and re-sharing in 2015 because it fits just right. 
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Infant Reflux Medication Options and The Weight Put on Parents

11/30/2015

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If you’ve landed here looking for advice on the best medicines for your baby’s reflux, I’m sorry, you won’t find much here. There are daily posts on this topic on the Baby Center forum Surviving Reflux: Dealing with Colic, Reflux, MSPI  and I suggest you check it out.

The reason for the lack of info? Simply, I have no experience. The medication route was never advised by multiple docs, nor pushed by myself. I had a fat and “happy” spitter, which meant a “laundry problem” for me. Oh, and 18 months of no sleep and constant anxiety. 

If hindsight is 20/20, then my foresight was 50/50. I felt I had two clear choices:

  1. Demand medication and find a doctor that would agree, or..
  2. Go with my doctor’s recommendation, which was also my gut at the time.

The way I see it, at just a week or two old, I took my fork in the road too strong, and too early, without giving myself the options for detours along the way. All while under the obvious clear-headedness that comes after just giving birth and tackling home life with a newborn and two year old. 

He smiled, he laughed, he cried, he met milestones. He did what typical babies do, he just spit up each meal and couldn’t get rest (via nap or overnight). Still, I stuck to my guns, and my gut, that both he, and I, could make it through with this choice. 


As advised, my son needed to simply mature, eventually become more vertical each day, and he did outgrow it. Yes, he did spit up solids during this time, but the more solid the meal, the less the reflux persisted. Other than horrible sleep habits that were never quite worked out, I feel today that we did take the right path. But I can’t help but wonder if trying a solution would’ve made those 18 months better, more peaceful and more restful. Heck, I tried everything else.

There’s a reason that Medicate or Wait is part of my top 10 considerations for reflux families. Every parent comes into this situation with a position, that becomes influenced by experience and guided by medical professionals. 

Of parents I’ve talked to, no one situation has been alike. Some were prescribed medication right off the bat and solved many issues, and others tried many kinds with no luck at all. Some refused the recommended medicine, and others yet, like myself, found alternative tricks and tools to cope. 

My advice is to seriously re-examine your gut instincts with each passing phase. It’s to remind you that you are the voice for your child, even when that voice is a scared and shaky one (at whatever direction you take, or when you decide to change directions). 

Take a solid stance and press the issue until you can both find a new comfort level. And don’t be so stubborn, or sleep-deprived, to reconsider your options when your situation changes. 

If medication is on your mind, your first step is your doc, or a different doc, or yet a different doc. As far as online resources, there are tons of polarizing articles out there on both sides of the coin, and I never recommend trusting strangers on the Internet. If nothing else, you will see how not alone you are.
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Christina Schmitz Talks Car Seat Dangers and the Reflux Connection With Fox 8 Cleveland

11/14/2015

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On Nov. 14, 2015, Christina Schmitz joined Autumn Ziemba and Fox 8 Cleveland in the Morning, to discuss car seat risks and related issues concerning reflux, colic and more. Check out the video below and the resource article Safe to Spit Up: Car Seats and Other Elevating Dangers for Babies. 
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Safe to Spit Up: Car Seats and Other Elevating Dangers for Babies

11/5/2015

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 In April 2015, an Oklahoma family lost their two-month-old son, Shepherd Dodd, because he suffocated when his in-home child care provider left him napping in a car seat. It's making the national news and social media rounds now because Shepherd's story is getting the attention of state legislators on the serious issue of safe sleep standards.

What is safe?
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According to Dr. Erich K. Batra, as quoted in the The Journal of Pediatrics April 2015 article
"Cribs Are for Sleeping, Car Seats Are for Traveling: Danger in Using Sitting and Carrying Devices for Sleeping Infants," “Infants and young children should not be left unsupervised when using a sitting or carrying device due to the risk of suffocation and death.” The keyword here is unsupervised.

This article also sources seven main tips as outlined below:
  • Do not leave children unsupervised (awake or asleep)
  • Never leave children in a car seat with unbuckled or partially buckled straps
  • Car seats should never be placed on a soft or unstable surface
  • Infants in bouncers, strollers, and swings may be able to maneuver into positions that could compromise their airway; straps on these devices may not prevent infants from getting into hazardous situations
  • Ensure that infants cannot twist their heads into soft bedding or slump forward in a seat; restraints should be used according to manufacturer’s instructions
  • Slings are particularly hazardous because of their design and the ease with which an infant’s airway can be collapsed. If used, the infant’s face should be “visible and kissable” at all times
  • Do not place more than one infant together in a swing meant for one infant.

These may seem like common sense tips, but it truly takes an extraordinary vigilance. For new parents, or those without reliable gut instincts, child care sources, support systems, or more realistically - haven't slept in days, weeks, months - these can be some trying times. 

And what about reflux babies? 

Two words: ELEVATION and SLEEP. They do not work together, and even worse, can cause mounting risks. 

A very common remedy to help alleviate reflux: elevating and or inclining your babies position after feedings (such as baby wearing) and for sleep and resting (such as using a crib wedge mattress or other solution). Mix in uber-stressed-out, ultra-sleep-deprived parents and/or caregivers, and hazardous situations can present themselves. As seen on various searches online, what works for some parents doesn't follow these guidelines, even if conducted under strict supervision.

In my home state of Ohio, the Department of Health, early in 2015, launched a "safe sleep" campaign to address one facet of high infant mortality rates, ranking fourth in the country (3 each week in the state). In their messaging, the concern of back sleeping and choking was broached, including links to a diagram on the National Institutes of Child Health and Development Safe to Sleep and SIDs prevention page. 

In short, in my opinion, the situation of safe sleep is 100x more amplified for parents and caregivers dealing with reflux, silent reflux, colic and other common infant issues. It's a huge challenge creating a safe sleep environment for a baby that spits up in their sleep, or can't seem to sleep at all. It's goes beyond the crib and creating a safe physical, mental and emotional space for the whole family. Many families don't have the means to purchase a wedge or specialized reflux device or solution. 

I can only offer two more words: AWARENESS and SUPPORT. That is my plea to everyone out there in these situations for themselves, and the friends, family members and even just acquaintances in your world. Parenting is tough, and scary, and requires vigilance - and in these early months - it can take more than you have to give. I hope we can continue to spread the word and build the support systems needed.

Article links:

Parents prompt legislative study after baby dies while sleeping in car seat - Fox23.com

Cribs Are for Sleeping, Car Seats Are for Traveling: Danger in Using Sitting and Carrying Devices for Sleeping Infants - jpeds.com

Ohio's Infant Safe Sleep Campaign - Ohio Dept. of Health

Frequently Asked Questions for Safe Sleep - National Institutes of Child Health and Development

Parents Whose Baby Died Warn: Don't Let Babies Sleep in Car Seats: Parenting.com

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